husband and wife taking different flights...

[mdurette Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mdurette]

Am I insane? Some people have told me this is common, but I think I am crazy even though I will probably end up doing it.

My big 40 is coming up in early June. I REALLY WANT to park my butt down someplace warm with a book and chill for just a couple of days. Problem is I live in New England and the guarantee of pool/beach weather is not there. Only way.....hop on a plane with my DH.....have the grannies watch our 4 year old for a couple of days.

I am freaking out about the plane going down with both DH and I in it. (I am not a nervous flyer....we hop on a plane all the time....but it is all of us)

I am really thinking of booking us on different flights. Paying more for this too since my DH flies free if he is on the same flight as me.

Am I crazy? Or have any of you done this?

[GrayFal Silver Contributor and supermoderator Find all posts View Profile Close GrayFal]

My sister still does this and her kids are 17 and 19.

I never did it - to each his own.

You are not crazy , we each have our little 'things' when it comes to our kids.
I used to have nightmares and anxiety about driving off a bridge/into the water (I lived on a small island and had to go over two bridges to get to it) and being unable to save both kids.
I got over it.

[StressCadet Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close StressCadet]

I have this same twinge if DH and I are flying w/o kids-but that has only happened a couple of times-we just take them with us!

You want crazy? I FINALLY booked my last airline ticket of 4 today for our trip to Hawaii next month. We are flying 2 airlines and if the prices had not have dropped today-we would have flown 3. I have 2 FF tickets on 2 airlines, 1 pay with miles ticket and one full fare. Thank goodness we ended up 2 and 2 (1 kid, 1 adult on each airline) or one kid would have gone alone. (he's actually 17-wouldn't have been a big deal) but imagine that flight wondering if everyone was ok on 3 planes.

Do what you have to do. This pot can't call the kettle black-I'm not qualified-LOL!

[chellej Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close chellej]

You want crazy? I FINALLY booked my last airline ticket of 4 today for our trip to Hawaii next month. We are flying 2 airlines and if the prices had not have dropped today-we would have flown 3. I have 2 FF tickets on 2 airlines, 1 pay with miles ticket and one full fare. Thank goodness we ended up 2 and 2 (1 kid, 1 adult on each airline) or one kid would have gone alone. (he's actually 17-wouldn't have been a big deal) but imagine that flight wondering if everyone was ok on 3 planes.

Do what you have to do. This pot can't call the kettle black-I'm not qualified-LOL!

I have thought about it too but DH & I don't travel together too often, one has to stay and parent-sit.

DD and I are going to Hawaii next month & like stresscadet are on different flights going because of FF restrictions but are on the same flight coming back. She's 21 and well traveled but it still makes me nervous. Worst case, if she makes it to Kauai before me she will just have to take a taxi to the resort.

[Glitter Brunello Super Moderator Find all posts View Profile Close Glitter Brunello]

I used to have this same pang but never acted on it. I decided if it was ok for the whole fam to be on a flight together, it should be ok to leave the kids home safe with a grandparent while we flew somewhere without them. I mean, are they really better off going down with us in the plane, or at home with Grandma?

And I'd remind myself that really it was far more dangerous to leave them with a babysitter and drive in the same car to go out to dinner...

Still, anxiety sometimes defies logic, and I do understand.

[Nancy Platinum Contributor Find all posts View Profile Close Nancy]

I have friends who have done this for years and years. The interesting thing is their children now have children of their own, so it isn't about the kids so much anymore. Just their habit.

Nancy

[falmouth3 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close falmouth3]

It's the policy of a number of companies that executives can't all take the same flights. What's more important than continuity planning for your family.

Sue

[tim Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close tim]

We fly all over the place with our kids and never gave this much thought. However, in Hawaii a few weeks ago, I wanted to go on a helicopter tour. My wife insisted that she go with one kid first and then I go with another kid the next hour. That is what we did.

[Luanne Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Luanne]

A guy dh used to work with told him they used to fly separately. Then, he decided that if they went they should all go together, so the family started flying on the same plane.

[Glitter Brunello Super Moderator Find all posts View Profile Close Glitter Brunello]

We fly all over the place with our kids and never gave this much thought. However, in Hawaii a few weeks ago, I wanted to go on a helicopter tour. My wife insisted that she go with one kid first and then I go with another kid the next hour. That is what we did.

I would not even get on a helicopter, so I can't argue with that one.

[Jya-Ning Silver Contributor Find all posts View Profile Close Jya-Ning]

I have thought about this. Make sure you have enough life insurance to cover their expense. And you can determine if accident happen, if they are good with the guidance you pick or not. Than you can determine if it worth doing that or not.

Jya-Ning

[swilshire Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close swilshire]

There is probably more risk in driving to the airport together or away from the destination airport.

We've divided up the family only when necessary because of frequent flyer seat avaiability. Last time, the second group's arrival, scheduled for just an hour or so later, stretched to several hours by delays. At least we were in a nice airport for exploring (Denver).

Sheila

[buff Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close buff]

As long as your not sleeping in seperate beds, sounds good.

[vintner Super Moderator Find all posts View Profile Close vintner]

As long as your not sleeping in seperate beds, sounds good.

What is wrong with that?
We do at home.
When we get a timeshare, it is with 2 bedrooms and we sleep seperate there too.

And there are two good reasons:
Me-sleepwalker and bed roamer.
Her-CPAP and bathroom.

But then again, this probably gets into T.M.I.

[Denise Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Denise]

I'd take separate flights, too

If DH and I ever get a chance to fly somewhere without the kids (!!!), I would totally split up. No sense taking chances, and what do we really do together on the plane? Read our own books, sleep our own sleep, eat our own food, listen to our own music, watch our own movies. Occasionally, we may hold hands :-).

I actually used to enjoy flying alone in the good ol' days. Might be fun to pretend we are meeting for a fancy date .