The tears are falling

[wackymother Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close wackymother]

Believe me you will miss her. The kid had failed the test but was given a special type of test because he had a disability regarding taking written tests. So they had given him a pass to go as long as he could pass the oral test. He failed that one too and was not accepted. We are not sure when he got the news because as far as my son knew he was going but then started worrying because the kid stopped PMing him back and was not picking up the phone, Finally the night before the kid told my son what happened.

Okay, that's pretty horrifying. Can you imagine???? Poor kid.

[Jya-Ning Silver Contributor Find all posts View Profile Close Jya-Ning]

Don't feed him too much. Some how, my parents always think I get lousy food at school, and everytime when I was home, they try to make sure I get compensate. And I believe everytime after the home visit and when I ready to go back to the school, I need to adjust my belt.

Jya-Ning

[bigfrank Administrator Find all posts View Profile Close bigfrank]

Don't feed him too much. Some how, my parents always think I get lousy food at school, and everytime when I was home, they try to make sure I get compensate. And I believe everytime after the home visit and when I ready to go back to the school, I need to adjust my belt.

Jya-Ning

Do you still go to School?

[Jya-Ning Silver Contributor Find all posts View Profile Close Jya-Ning]

Do you still go to School?

No. pass that stage 20+ years ago. Maybe after I retired, I will go pick up some classes. Although both my parents pass away, I am still increase my belt size every few years though. Bad habbit.

Jya-Ning

[chs225 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close chs225]

The real tears come when they try to move back in with you after college After four years to renew my relationship with my better half, having them move back in can be a jolt. I, too, remember that sinking feeling when I left my first at the college dorm steps. but I also remember that proud feeling when she spread her wings and flew. That was within weeks of leaving her. All three of mine, not only grew independent, but formed a closer relationship with us as a result of that independence. My son has come back to live (the others are over 3000 miles away). He knows he has to leave again no matter how much we care for each other and how much we love him.
Cutting the knot is one of the toughest things a parent must do, but there are pluses to having your better half all to yourself. We're dating again and now she doesn't have to make a choice between pizza or a movie, she can have both. Good luck Frank. With the relationship you have with your son, the time he is away will only strengthen those bonds

[billymach4 Super Moderator Find all posts View Profile Close billymach4]

Best of Luck.

Frank,

Have not had a chance to keep up with all of the news. My wife took the departure pretty hard. But 4 years later my son is back and working hard!

I am sure you all will have a great experience. Especially your son.

Good Luck.

Bill

[senorak Member Find all posts View Profile Close senorak]

Frank....I feel the same way. We are taking our oldest to college on Wednesday.....and I have been in tears for days. He's only going about 2 hours away....said he'd be home for Labor Day weekend, and parent's weekend is 2 weeks after that...but I am still fighting back the tears. Thought I was doing fine.....getting him prepared to leave....until my youngest, (8 years age difference), came to me crying one night, saying how much he was going to miss his older brother...and that he didn't want him to go because "life will be so different without him here". And in trying to reassure him, it suddenly hit me that Alex would indeed be living somewhere else. I just can't imagine our house w/o the noise from Alex and his buddies.

We're going through the "final preparations" now....last minute shopping, packing clothing, etc. Alex has asked that whoever comes along to take him to college...that they "not cry in front of him", (because he knows that if one person starts, he will break down). And my youngest immediately said, "well, then I can't go along". Breaks my heart. (I told him that we could cry on the ride home.)

My son is attending the school with several of his high school friends; in fact, his roommate is a friend from home. He loved the campus, (visited 3x), and I also fell in love with it. Part of me is so darn proud of him....and the other part is asking "how in the world is he going to make it w/o his mother looking after him???"

I just can't believe that 18 years have flown by....and my little "superbowl baby", born almost a month early.....is ready to leave home. Our household sure will be different (and more quiet) w/o him.

DEB

[Joe L Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Joe L]

Frankie,
I personally think this is a good thing. When our son was living at home my wife couldn't sleep until he came home. If he was late, all bad thoughts entered her mind. If she heard about a fatal traffic accident on TV and he wasn't home.... ouch..bad thoughts

After he left, she slept soundly. BTW did ya get the new Lincoln?

[gophish Super Moderator Find all posts View Profile Close gophish]

Frank, just catching up with this thread.
Taking them away to school for the first time is a bittersweet experience.
You know you will miss having them around all the time, but you also know it is good for their growth to get away even when your relationship at home is very good.
Just remember you have done your work and from what I have heard from you previously about your boy you have nothing to worry about, he will thrive in college and you will enjoy his time back home even more!!
My youngest boy just finished his first year of law school and didn't come home for the summer because he was taking some summer classes, etc. He did come home for a few days but it was different than having him around all summer. And my older boy is at least back on the east coast, he was in Oregon for 4 years but took a job about a year ago at NYU so that is nice.
anyway hang in there and be proud!!!

[jackio Gold Contributor Find all posts View Profile Close jackio]

Frank, I hope you and Jackie are over your tears, but I'm sure your still missing your son tremendously. You must be proud of the fine young man he has become - I remember when he was going to HS, then learning to drive. This has had to be the hardest, but I think you may learn to love the empty nest, and his returns home will be a disruption.

[RESORT2ME Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close RESORT2ME]

Frank,

Cherish the closeness of your family. He is starting a journey. Be proud to watch him.

This summer, our oldest, his wife and three children flew in and visited us at our Pompano Beach timeshare. We were 2 years out of the Navy and resided in Michigan. Doug graduated high school and attended Junior college. I recall he flew off to pursue Marine Science Technology in Florida in 1979.

We relocated to Texas. Doug finished his courses and returned to the nest, there. Attended computer science courses at Pasadena then joined the US Coast Guard as a Marine Science Technician. We relocated to Virginia.

One of Doug’s many assignments was Honolulu. He met Deanne, a young lady from Washington state, a college student in Hawaii. We attended their wedding in 1992.

After several assignments... Virginia, Texas and Oregon, in 2006 Doug retired. He is now majoring in Computer Programming.

What a journey we have witnessed!

They reside at Vancouver, WA across the Columbia River from Portland, OR. That's about as far apart as son and parent can be.

We are content with their independence. We couldn't be more proud.
We feel successful that Doug has pursued, achieved and is continuing on.

May your tears be rewarded in the years to come.

Love is precious, cherish it.
Learn to let him become free! Watch him as he flies.

Robert

[mb727 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mb727]

After dropping off our last child at school, my wife cried almost all the way home, 100 miles. I was always afraid to ask her if she was crying because our house would now be empty and quiet, or that, she realized that she would now spend the rest of her life with just me.

[taffy19 Gold Contributor Find all posts View Profile Close taffy19]

Frank,

Cherish the closeness of your family. He is starting a journey. Be proud to watch him.

This summer, our oldest, his wife and three children flew in and visited us at our Pompano Beach timeshare. We were 2 years out of the Navy and resided in Michigan. Doug graduated high school and attended Junior college. I recall he flew off to pursue Marine Science Technology in Florida in 1979.

We relocated to Texas. Doug finished his courses and returned to the nest, there. Attended computer science courses at Pasadena then joined the US Coast Guard as a Marine Science Technician. We relocated to Virginia.

One of Doug’s many assignments was Honolulu. He met Deanne, a young lady from Washington state, a college student in Hawaii. We attended their wedding in 1992.

After several assignments... Virginia, Texas and Oregon, in 2006 Doug retired. He is now majoring in Computer Programming.

What a journey we have witnessed!

They reside at Vancouver, WA across the Columbia River from Portland, OR. That's about as far apart as son and parent can be.

We are content with their independence. We couldn't be more proud.
We feel successful that Doug has pursued, achieved and is continuing on.

May your tears be rewarded in the years to come.

Love is precious, cherish it.
Learn to let him become free! Watch him as he flies.

Robert

What a heartwarming report this is and others too. It's really nice to read this thread. Frank, you must have been more scared and worried yet when your son learned to drive but not anymore because he can do it. He may like college and still love to come home often so you can be together and all the traveling together too. I am really glad I met all three of you and your son is so nice and seems responsible too. He will not let you down.

[bigfrank Administrator Find all posts View Profile Close bigfrank]

Frank, I hope you and Jackie are over your tears, but I'm sure your still missing your son tremendously.

We were away in AC and Cape May and all I could think about was him. I did not think before hand that I was going to take it this bad. I knew my wife was going to take it bad but I figured I would be the strong one. Man was I wrong. We came home from AC a day and a half early and stopped by his dorm where we first dropped off an AC, Microwave and that Sensco coffee maker that some you might have bought. I put in his AC and then we had to leave but he said we could come back at 8pm where he had a 30 Min break, So we walked around Hoboken had Lunch/diner and went by the water. we then went shopping for him and picked him up a good chair, a broom , a wall mirror and some grocery's. we waited for him to get back to the room brought every thing up and had a fast cup of Coffee and left. We are still in tears but feel better knowing that he has what ever he needs and is comfortable. I know from walking around that the area is great and the School campus is safe. I know this is part of life but it took a lot out of me.

[Juleen Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Juleen]

Our daughter left home to go to ASU for 4 years which was about 40 minutes away from our home--rough. But, when she left to go to the U of Iowa for her Masters and Doctorate we mourned! As the years went by, we began to realize this is a normal letting go--LOL, much easier for the child than the parent. I now understood how hard it must have been for my mother to let me fly off to ASU from Colorado. It's a price that we pay for being loving parents--letting your child fly free is tough but because we love them so much we have to pay a price--letting them go! I assure you, that your relationship will change, but it's for the better. He's heading to adulthood and the bond will not weaken, it will grow and before you know it, you will find you have an adult child who is now an equal, a friend but always, always a piece of your heart!