welcoming a new addition and what to do

[lawren2 Malibu Beach Barbie & A Super Moderator Find all posts View Profile Close lawren2]

well, she isn't quite new any more. In the middle of things I somehow ended up adopting a half grown cat or she adopted me.

Sometime towards what should have been the end of winter here in NY, I was asked to foster and make adoption friendly, a half grown cat of about 6 months. She was very shy but truly hasn't a mean bone in her body. One of those it will take weeks cats but if it doesn't work we'll put her back with the colony.

and it did.

The weather kept being horrendous and her little paw pads were already cracked from walking on ice and snow. She already had all her shots and was spayed and her ear notched to be turned back out with her colony but the weather stayed wicked.


She won my heart the day she rolled over on her back, her eyes softened and she reached out to touch my face, ever so gently. Oh h-e-double toothpicks! What is one more little cat? One that would be mine, not my son's a lap cat to boot!

Now the issue: My son's cat, Cougar, is a BEAST! DS17 can do anything to that cat but he isn't really a "pet me" animal unless he initiates. Actually he's quite moody BUT he doesn't like to share me and he occasionally will corner this sweet half grown black cat and beat the snot out of her! Particularly if she has been on my lap purring her little heart out. We're not talking blood and gore but a lot of unpleasantness. And yet she tries SO HARD to befriend him.

Shiloh plays with her. Cougar likes Shiloh and always has.

Any hints? I've had her in with us since March now. She is still quite shy and takes a long time to get over any absence but when she does it's "all in". Adoptive families don't want that. They want "forward" animals. So I must keep her; I just need to get King Kitty Poop into line about what is acceptable. Cornering her when he is in a mood is NOT. I think she "gets" that she is kitty #3 and is fine with her assignment.

Approximate time on how long this will take?

[chriskre Super Moderator Find all posts View Profile Close chriskre]

I've got a similar situation Lawren.

My girl Tiggie is just so mean to my boy Tequila even after 3 years already.
Vet says that some cats just never come around. Unfortunately she seems to be one of those. It's hissing and chasing all day long. Sometimes I catch them in a tender moment but when I'm around it's hissing and pouncing. Quite entertaining actually but at times annoying. I haven't seen any blood yet and when I leave I do come home to two cats so I think they put on the show just for me.

In the end Tequila sleeps with me and Tiggie has moved onto the couch. Some days I do try to give her me and Mommy time and lock him out but he's just too fast other days and claims the spot.

Anyway, unfortunately no advise but I feel for ya.

[eal Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close eal]

Here is an interesting article - it may not be too late to try some of these ideas.

Introducing a New Cat

[lawren2 Malibu Beach Barbie & A Super Moderator Find all posts View Profile Close lawren2]

I've got a similar situation Lawren.

My girl Tiggie is just so mean to my boy Tequila even after 3 years already.
Vet says that some cats just never come around. Unfortunately she seems to be one of those. It's hissing and chasing all day long. Sometimes I catch them in a tender moment but when I'm around it's hissing and pouncing. Quite entertaining actually but at times annoying. I haven't seen any blood yet and when I leave I do come home to two cats so I think they put on the show just for me.

In the end Tequila sleeps with me and Tiggie has moved onto the couch. Some days I do try to give her me and Mommy time and lock him out but he's just too fast other days and claims the spot.

Anyway, unfortunately no advise but I feel for ya.

sigh. I like peace here in the neighborhood. poor little tail wagger sleeps somewhere but not in bed with me and the other two. I feed her separately but Cougs has been known to leave his wet food to her...

As you say there's no blood, no vet bills and I come home from wherever to 3 very alive cats.

[wackymother Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close wackymother]

I think you might find an adoptive family that appreciates a shy cat.

We had a cat and it never liked my MIL's cat, so when my MIL watched our cat when we went on vacation, it was a huge situation with hissing and spitting. Finally my MIL kept our cat (for complicated reasons) for a couple of years, but the cats just never did learn to get along, even after knowing each other for a long, long time.

I still feel guilty over my cat tormenting my MIL's cat, b/c while the feelings were mutual, my MIL's home was her cat's home, and we were the ones who forced another cat in.

[dcwojo Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dcwojo]

We have three cats. Two of them were constantly fighting. After a year as the small one grew they came to an understanding and coexist peacefully most of the time now.

[Nancy Platinum Contributor Find all posts View Profile Close Nancy]

I'm no cat expert, but I think some cats will never get along. I had 2 different sets of male and female cats. The first set were very close. (They were also father and daughter, but don't think they knew that!). The second set which were together for 15 years or so, never were friends. They never really fought, but they never were as close as first set.

Nancy

ps. Hope you have better luck than we did.

[Spence Super Moderator Find all posts View Profile Close Spence]

well, she isn't quite new any more. In the middle of things I somehow ended up adopting a half grown cat or she adopted me.

Sometime towards what should have been the end of winter here in NY, I was asked to foster and make adoption friendly, a half grown cat of about 6 months. She was very shy but truly hasn't a mean bone in her body. One of those it will take weeks cats but if it doesn't work we'll put her back with the colony.

and it did.

The weather kept being horrendous and her little paw pads were already cracked from walking on ice and snow. She already had all her shots and was spayed and her ear notched to be turned back out with her colony but the weather stayed wicked.


She won my heart the day she rolled over on her back, her eyes softened and she reached out to touch my face, ever so gently. Oh h-e-double toothpicks! What is one more little cat? One that would be mine, not my son's a lap cat to boot!

Now the issue: My son's cat, Cougar, is a BEAST! DS17 can do anything to that cat but he isn't really a "pet me" animal unless he initiates. Actually he's quite moody BUT he doesn't like to share me and he occasionally will corner this sweet half grown black cat and beat the snot out of her! Particularly if she has been on my lap purring her little heart out. We're not talking blood and gore but a lot of unpleasantness. And yet she tries SO HARD to befriend him.

Shiloh plays with her. Cougar likes Shiloh and always has.

Any hints? I've had her in with us since March now. She is still quite shy and takes a long time to get over any absence but when she does it's "all in". Adoptive families don't want that. They want "forward" animals. So I must keep her; I just need to get King Kitty Poop into line about what is acceptable. Cornering her when he is in a mood is NOT. I think she "gets" that she is kitty #3 and is fine with her assignment.

Approximate time on how long this will take?

take 'em to Motel6, they'll get on with it in a heartbeat?

[Kay H Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Kay H]

I'm no cat expert, but I think some cats will never get along. I had 2 different sets of male and female cats. The first set were very close. (They were also father and daughter, but don't think they knew that!). The second set which were together for 15 years or so, never were friends. They never really fought, but they never were as close as first set.

Nancy

ps. Hope you have better luck than we did.

Nancy,
I'll send you a private message. Couldn't find where to answer yours.

[Ridewithme38 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Ridewithme38]

You should get dogs!

[Glitter Brunello Super Moderator Find all posts View Profile Close Glitter Brunello]

You should get dogs!

Ha!! Dogs aren't always a walk in the park, either, when it comes to new household members... though I agree the odds of working it out over time are probably better. I had success with one, but trouble with another. I did have more patience the first time.