So what did I miss here??

[T. R. Oglodyte Moderator Find all posts View Profile Close T. R. Oglodyte]

Weather finally turned nice, and we've been getting six or more hours of direct sun on the deck. About a month ago I decide to try once again to grow something in a container on the deck. We like cilantro, so I put some in a pot and it's doing spectacularly. So I mention to DW that maybe we should try to grow more herbs, and she enthusiastically agrees. So I ask her what other herbs would she like me to plant. She thinks a moment, and says "mint".

Mint? We don't use mint in anything!! But I make sure to pick some up the next time I go buy the garden store, transfer it to a pot and stick it on the deck. Where it is doing nicely, thank you.

But still, I'm wondering, why did she say "mint"? And all of a sudden it occurs to me - sun tea! Which we haven't done for years. But I know that even if she wasn't specifically thinking sun tea, it's still something that she will enjoy. So I look up sun tea recipes on the internet, and note that most of them mention using black tea. So I scour through her assortment of teas, sifting through the herb teas to find something more conventional and come across an almost unused box of English breakfast, which I figure should work well. So I put a concoction in the sun including some zested orange peel and a couple of sprigs of fresh mint.

She enjoys some of it, though I drink most of it, and asks me what I used for tea, so I mention the English breakfast. I ask her if there is some other tea that she would prefer, and she mentions that in the drawer there is a tin of loose tea that is specifically blended for use in sun tea, and maybe I should use that. "Great!" , I'm thinking.

Well, the sun is out this afternoon and she's occupied with some other activities, so I decide this a good time to make a new batch of sun tea, using the sun tea mix she suggested. Which I proceed to do (along with more freshly cut mint). Dinner time comes, and I start to bring the freshly brewed sun tea to the table. She sees me taking the jar to the table, and asks me what tea I used to prepare it. I look at her, with probably a bit of bewilderment, and I say that I used the sun tea mix she suggested. To which she replies .....

"I can't drink that. It has caffeine."

I'm sitting here now, wondering what I missed. I asked her what kind of tea she would like. She mentioned the sun tea mix. I used the sun tea mix. Then she tells me she can't drink it because it has caffeine.

Help! Anyone!!!

[bigfrank Administrator Find all posts View Profile Close bigfrank]

use the mint for mojito's also makes good for marinates. My wife was given Coco mint which I never heard of but looks nice. Btw mint comes back every year. Be sure to plant basil that imo is the best herd to grow

[LisaH Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close LisaH]

use the mint for mojito's also makes good for marinates. My wife was given Coco mint which I never heard of but looks nice. Btw mint comes back every year. Be sure to plant basil that imo is the best herd to grow

Funny I also picked up a mint plant from the farmers market last weekend and it has been growing very nicely. I used it to make mojito and also add to my vodka and tonic. Last March when I was in UK, a few of my British colleagues ordered mint tea along with the dessert. I tried it and it was very yummy. Basically, just use a bunch of mint leaves in the hot water. Add honey to taste. No tea bag needed!

[GrayFal Silver Contributor and supermoderator Find all posts View Profile Close GrayFal]

I am growing chocolate mint and grapefruit mint. Both will go into adult beverages but I. Like Lisa's suggestion of the tea as well. Growing mine on the deck as well

As for your wife, maybe thd phrase ' use to like ' is the key. Probably liked sun tea before she gave up caffeine ( or does not drink it after a certain hour)

Grow basil, regular and Thai. Great in adult beverages with lime and vodka and delicious in many foods as well.

[Presley Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Presley]

There's a yummy drink at Disneyland called a Mint Julep. I think it's a limeade with mint. Maybe the recipe is online somewhere. It has no caffeine and it is very, very yummy.

[M. Henley Class President Find all posts View Profile Close M. Henley]

Well...

Did you notice that your wife is a woman?

[easyrider Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close easyrider]

It looks like you forgot the rules Steve. In my experience it is always appropriate to nod, smile and immediately apologize for any attempt to make a wife happy that doesn't quite hit the mark. Remembering rule 13 make the most sense for most of us.


1.The female makes the rules.

2.The rules are subject to change by the female at any time without prior
notification.

3.No male can possibly know all the rules. Attempts to document the rules
are not permitted.

4.If the female suspects that the male may know some or all of the rules,
she must immediately change some or all of the rules.

5.The female is never wrong.

6.If the female is wrong, it is because of an egregarious misunderstanding
which was the direct result of something the male did, said, did not do,
or did not say.

7.If rule 6 is invoked, the male must apologize immediately for having
been the cause of the misunderstanding without any clues from the female
as to what he did to have caused the misunderstanding. See rule 13.

8.The female may change her mind at any time for any reason or no reason
at all.

9.The male is never permitted to change his mind or under circumstances
without the express written consent of the female which is given only in
cases where the female wanted him to change his mind but gave no
indication of that wish. See rules 6, 7, 12, and 13.

10.The female has the right to be angry or upset for any reason, real or
imagined, at any time and under any circumstance which in her sole
judgement she deems appropriate. The male is not to be given any sign of
the root cause of the female's being angry or pset. The female may,
however, give false or misleading reasons to see if the male is paying
attention. See rule 13.

11.The male must remain calm at all times, unless the female wants him to
be angry or upset.

12.Under no circumstances may the female give the male any clue or
indication whether or why she wants him to be angry or upset.

13.The male is expected to read the mind of the female at all times.
Failure to do so will result in punishments and penalties imposed at the
sole discretion of the female.

14.The female may, at any time and for any reason, resurrect any past
incident without regard to temporal or spacial distance, and modify,
enlarge, embellish, of wholly reconstruct it in order to demonstrate to
the male that he is now or has in the past been wrong, insensitive,
pig-headed, dense, deceitful, and/or oafish.

15.The female may use her interpretation of any past occurrence to
illustrate the ways in which the male has failed to accord her the
consideration, respect, devotion, or material possessions, he has
bestowed on other females, domestic pets or barnyard animals, sports
teams, automobiles, motorcycles, boats, aircraft, or coworkers. Such
illustrations are non-rebuttable.

16.If the female is experiencing PMS, Post-PMS, or Pre-PMS, the female is
permitted to exhibit any manner of behaviors she wishes without regard to
logical consistency or accepted norms of human behavior.

17.Any act, deed, word, expression, statement, utterance, thought,
opinion, or belief by the male is subject to the sole, subjective
interpretation of the female, other external factors not-withstanding.
Alibis, excuses, explanations, defenses, reasons, extenuations, or
rationalizations will not be entertained. Abject please for mercy
and forgiveness are acceptable under some circumstances,
especially when accompanied by tangible evidence of contrition. :-))

[Kay H Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Kay H]

Steve
That reminds me of a funny story. Story is true. Male friend was dating a woman who had 2 young sons who came one summer to spend 2 weeks with the couple. One morning the male was about to prepare breakfast and asked the 2 youngsters if they like eggs. They both replied yes. Asked how they liked them cooked and 1 said fried and 1 said scrambled. He prepared each and placed them in front of the boys. Each boy became upset and said they didn't want eggs. The adult stated that they said they wanted eggs. Boys replied that they were asked if they LIKE not if they wanted eggs.

Maybe your wife is related to the 2 boys.

[T. R. Oglodyte Moderator Find all posts View Profile Close T. R. Oglodyte]

Another of my true stories. One time I found myself in a Macy's with her when she was browsing the sale racks for women's clothing. I asked her what she was looking for, and she said a red top. So I started browsing some of the racks myself.

I found a red top I thought was attractive, in her size, and reasonably priced. So I took it over to her for consideration.

She glanced at it and said .... "That's not red. That's strawberry."

[Presley Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Presley]

Another of my true stories. One time I found myself in a Macy's with her when she was browsing the sale racks for women's clothing. I asked her what she was looking for, and she said a red top. So I started browsing some of the racks myself.

I found a red top I thought was attractive, in her size, and reasonably priced. So I took it over to her for consideration.

She glanced at it and said .... "That's not red. That's strawberry."

And your point is?

[LisaH Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close LisaH]

Wow Steve. You deserve a metal! My DH is good but not nearly as attentive as you are.

[T. R. Oglodyte Moderator Find all posts View Profile Close T. R. Oglodyte]

Wow Steve. You deserve a metal! My DH is good but not nearly as attentive as you are.

Yeah - and what difference does that make when after all that attentiveness what you do is still wrong.

[LisaH Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close LisaH]

It's not all about the end result. It's the effort that counts

[bigfrank Administrator Find all posts View Profile Close bigfrank]

It's not all about the end result. It's the effort that counts

I gave up years ago.I learned that the male can not win.