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  • Obsessive Housekeeping

    I'm posting here cuz this is likely gender-related.

    How can I get an obsessive housekeeper to chill a bit?

    Here's the deal . . . we live in the woods and on a lake . . . and we have laminate flooring throughout, so everything shows (unlike y'all who can hide years worth of filth in your carpets ).

    DW has a little rechargeable floor sweeper, a big tool-time style vacuum cleaner, and a couple of handheld dustbuster styles. We're lucky to go a half day without one or more of them running. Then, of course, someone goes outside and tracks in a blade of grass or a speck of dirt.

    How can I get her to let it accumulate awhile, say until it starts to pile, maybe to where you need a shovel , or at least get her to cut back to once or twice a week.

    Oh yeah, we have a dog and three cats, and do they ever get blamed for that speck of dirt???

    I can hear her brother muttering, "I would never live in a house I couldn't walk in."

    Or, when after cleaning she says, "You don't appreciate what I do around here," is there a tactful way to say, "No, in this case, No!"
    RCI Member Since 24-Aug-1989/150-plus Exchanges***THE TIMESHARE GRIM REAPER~~~Exchanging/Searching/SW Florida/MO/AR/IA/Consumer Advocacy/Estate Planning/Sports/Boating/Fishing/Golf/Lake-living/Retirement****Sometimes ya just gotta be a dick

  • #2
    Sorry, I have no suggestions, but I would like to catch a bit of what your wife has. In fact, I'd like to swap compulsive eating for compulsive cleaning!!
    Jacki

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    • #3
      Originally posted by JLB View Post
      I'm posting here cuz this is likely gender-related.

      How can I get an obsessive housekeeper to chill a bit?

      Here's the deal . . . we live in the woods and on a lake . . . and we have laminate flooring throughout, so everything shows (unlike y'all who can hide years worth of filth in your carpets ).

      DW has a little rechargeable floor sweeper, a big tool-time style vacuum cleaner, and a couple of handheld dustbuster styles. We're lucky to go a half day without one or more of them running. Then, of course, someone goes outside and tracks in a blade of grass or a speck of dirt.

      How can I get her to let it accumulate awhile, say until it starts to pile, maybe to where you need a shovel , or at least get her to cut back to once or twice a week.

      Oh yeah, we have a dog and three cats, and do they ever get blamed for that speck of dirt???

      I can hear her brother muttering, "I would never live in a house I couldn't walk in."

      Or, when after cleaning she says, "You don't appreciate what I do around here," is there a tactful way to say, "No, in this case, No!"
      Sounds like a guilty conscience is getting to you and that is making you to want her to stop....take the high road, and instead of focusing on what she is doing, focus on the person who is doing it....appreciating HER will free you up from being bothered by her need for cleanliness.
      Life is short, live it with this awareness.

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      • #4
        Damn, I was hoping someone would suggest HRT.
        RCI Member Since 24-Aug-1989/150-plus Exchanges***THE TIMESHARE GRIM REAPER~~~Exchanging/Searching/SW Florida/MO/AR/IA/Consumer Advocacy/Estate Planning/Sports/Boating/Fishing/Golf/Lake-living/Retirement****Sometimes ya just gotta be a dick

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        • #5
          Can I borrow her for a week or 10 days?
          Lawren
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          There are many wonderful places in the world, but one of my favourite places is on the back of my horse.
          - Rolf Kopfle

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          • #6
            This sounds like brag.

            I will be thanksful if I am in this situation, and wonder why I can still be alive.

            Maybe the dog and cat need me around as a easy target.

            Jya-Ning
            Jya-Ning

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            • #7
              How about the Roomba? Wasn't that the answer for that? I never hear it mentioned anymore. Is it still being used by the people who bought it here?

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              • #8
                I will PAY you to send her to me for a week

                No one has ever accused me of having a house too clean

                Joy
                “ Peace, if it ever exists, will not be based on the fear of war but on the love of peace. ”

                — Herman Wouk

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                • #9
                  I will accept your $$$ pay and put her on the next stagecoach.

                  FWIW, she has been back home from going home for a whole 3 hours and has not run the sweeper yet.

                  Of course, she brought our great-nieces with her, so maybe she has given up on clean for now.
                  RCI Member Since 24-Aug-1989/150-plus Exchanges***THE TIMESHARE GRIM REAPER~~~Exchanging/Searching/SW Florida/MO/AR/IA/Consumer Advocacy/Estate Planning/Sports/Boating/Fishing/Golf/Lake-living/Retirement****Sometimes ya just gotta be a dick

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                  • #10
                    I want what she's got. I'm just the opposite. I bet she could straighten me out! shaggy

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                    • #11
                      You may have answered your own question....keep the great-nieces!

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                      • #12
                        Take over keeping it cleaned up for awhile and let her know you'll be glad when she does it again.

                        Everytime you see her cleaning the floor, take the tool from her and say, "Let me do that this time.
                        Let her know you appreciate all the effort she puts in.

                        Put house slippers near the door for everyone including the animals. Get on there case when coming in without them on. No "animals" on the spotless laminate without slippers.

                        Grab the vacumm every chance you get to share the chore with DW.
                        Robert

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                        • #13
                          DW is neat and I am a slob.

                          I often watch her in awe; neatness is as natural to her as breathing. If something is out of place, when she walks by she picks it up and puts it away without even thinking about it. If you mention it to her three minutes she won't even remember that she did it; it's so natural to her that she does it without even needing to think about it.

                          For me, cleaning is a chore and something I have to force myself to do. I wish I were neater, but I've accepted that I'm not.

                          And I am so grateful that I am married to a wonderful woman for whom it is so natural. It used to bother me when she would walk into one of my spaces and I could see her stiffen and bite her tongue. But I've realized that one of the reasons why I love her (and need her) is because she forces me to be more organized and disciplined.

                          About fifteen years ago I had a work assignment that required me to be away for about three weeks out of every month for almost a year. About half way through the assignment I came home to my apartment one evening after work, looked around at the mess, and for one brief moment realized how much I took her for granted.

                          *****

                          Now, if I could only find the time to clean the garage ........
                          “Maybe you shouldn't dress like that.”

                          “This is a blouse and skirt. I don't know what you're talking about.”

                          “You shouldn't wear that body.”

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                          • #14
                            JLB or Oglodyte,
                            I wish either one of your wives would move to my place for a week and clean ! I will treat you and your wife to an exchange of your choice !

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                            • #15
                              Oops. Operator error.
                              RCI Member Since 24-Aug-1989/150-plus Exchanges***THE TIMESHARE GRIM REAPER~~~Exchanging/Searching/SW Florida/MO/AR/IA/Consumer Advocacy/Estate Planning/Sports/Boating/Fishing/Golf/Lake-living/Retirement****Sometimes ya just gotta be a dick

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